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Midlife can bring a particularly frustrating contradiction. You may be exercising regularly, trying to eat well and doing more than you did five years ago, yet recovery feels slower, sleep is less predictable, body composition is changing and the routine that once energised you can sometimes leave you depleted.

There is a particular kind of woman who can be awake at 3am, lead a difficult meeting at 9am and still convince everybody, including herself, that she is functioning perfectly well. She has spent decades becoming exceptionally good at carrying complexity. Career pressure, family responsibility, financial decisions, caring, deadlines and the invisible work of remembering what everybody else has forgotten have all been absorbed into a life that still appears remarkably well ma

Many Black women are diagnosed with ADHD for the first time in their forties, not because the condition is new, but because the coping strategies that hid it for decades are finally failing under the weight of perimenopause. For most of her life, the woman in question has been known for her competence. Then, somewhere in midlife, that competence becomes harder to summon. The diary she once managed instinctively becomes unreliable.